You knew that divorce would affect your relationship with your child. However, you did not think that within a few months, your child would no longer want to see you. If this happens, something is not right.
If you research your child’s behavior on the internet, you may come across something called parental alienation syndrome. The term was introduced in 1985 yet has never been recognized as a mental health condition by either the American Medical Association or the American Psychological Association.
Other sources might suggest that your ex is programming or brainwashing your child to think badly of you. Yet the terms suggest there is an intention. Your spouse may well be doing it without realizing it.
There can be a lot of hurt and bitterness in divorce. Your child may hear your spouse talking badly about you on the phone, or when their friends visit. Or your spouse may make comments directly to your child.
If you feel your child no longer wants to see you, talk to your ex. Do not accuse them of trying to do turn your child against you. It could exacerbate the situation. Instead, explain that your child is acting differently. It gives your spouse a chance to reflect and modify their behavior.
Talk to your child and ask them what is wrong. Remember, divorce is a difficult time for them, and they may have confusion about their feelings. They need to know that you love them and will always be there for them.
If things do not improve, seek legal advice. If you currently have only a limited amount of parenting time, you may be able to argue for a modification of child custody, using what is happening as evidence.
