The last thing you wanted during your divorce was to have to go to court. You want to keep your divorce as private as possible, but your spouse is having none of it. They want to take your to court and “drain you” of your assets because they seem to want to get revenge. You don’t know why they feel that way, but nothing you’ve done seems to get through to them.
In a high-conflict situation like this, it’s a good idea to talk to your attorney about ways to minimize conflict moving forward. While some people may be able to use mediation or arbitration to resolve their differences, there is the chance that you will need to consider litigating.
Litigation isn’t usually an attorney’s go-to option for any situation, but in a case like yours, it may be the right one. New York is an equitable distribution state, which means that you will need to argue for a fair share of your assets if your spouse takes you to divorce court. You want to work with your attorney early on in this case so that you can put together a strong case for your assets and show that your spouse was being unreasonable and unwilling to work with you.
You want to show the court that you were reasonable and respectful. Your attorney will have you gather information about your assets, but they will also have you gather chats, text messages, social media posts and other information that shows that your spouse wasn’t willing to work with you. Showing this to a judge may help you turn the tides of the divorce and put you on the path toward a successful resolution.
